November , as you may know is, National Hospice Palliative Care Month.

As a way of marking this important awareness month I thought it would be useful to share some recent advice provided by the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organisation (NHPCO). The National Hospice and Palliative Care Organisation is America’s largest palliative care support organisation.

Next weeks sees Thanksgiving in the US with Christmas and Hanukkah falling in December. So we thought these useful tips in how to support people who are suffering a bereavement during this period might prove very useful!

To ensure that nothing is missed I am quoting from a recent document produced by NHPCO.

“Hospice professionals, who are experienced at helping people deal with grief and loss, offer some suggestions:

• Be supportive of the way the person chooses to handle the holidays. Some may wish to follow traditions; others may choose to avoid customs of the past and do something new. It’s okay to do things differently.
• Offer to help the person with decorating or holiday baking. Both tasks can be overwhelming for someone who is grieving.




• Offer to help with holiday shopping. Share catalogs or online shopping sites that may be helpful.
• Invite the person to join you or your family during the holidays. You might invite them to join you for a religious service or at a holiday meal where they are a guest.
• Ask the person if he or she is interested in volunteering with you during the holidays. Doing something for someone else, such as helping at a soup kitchen or working with children, may help your loved one feel better about the holidays.
• Never tell someone that he or she should be “over it.” Instead, give the person hope that, eventually, he or she will enjoy the holidays again.
• Be willing to listen. Active listening from friends and family is an important step to helping some cope with grief and heal.
• Remind the person you are thinking of him or her and the loved one who died. Cards, phone calls and visits are great ways to stay in touch.

“One of the best ways to help those who are grieving during the holidays is to let them know you care and that their loved one is not forgotten,” said J. Donald Schumacher, PsyD, president and CEO of National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization. “Lending an ear and holding a hand can be one of the greatest gifts we can give.””

If you have any other suggestions it would be great to hear them. Please feel free to share in the comments section below.

Many thanks in advance!