My Secret Super Power! – A cross post from Family Life and Autism – an autism mom pays tribute to those who have helped. Who would you like to thank?

Autism is my Super Power
Autism is my Super Power
I have been inspired to write this blog because of some very special people in my life, and I am hoping you know who you are!!

I am not an amazing mummy, I have no special super powers, I am no better than any other mother. I love my boys to bits but I still get cross at them. I shout at them. I don’t have endless patience, I cry, and I feel like giving up at times. But I am not the only mummy out there having a hard time. I know some amazing mother’s who are also fighting their own battles and yet still being super mummy’s to their children!!

Being a mother is one of the hardest jobs, ever. I realise it was me that made the decision to have children, it was my choice! But honestly, I did not give it that much thought. I knew I wanted a baby, I knew I wanted a family, and I think that might have been as far as my thinking went. But once you sign up for this job, it is not one you can quit, its not one you can change for an easier one. You don’t get paid, you don’t get sick leave and you don’t get holiday pay, actually you don’t even get a tea break! You are on call 24/7, 365 days a year, for the rest of your life. I think even the best marketing company might have trouble selling this one. And yet, here I am, having happily signed up for the job, twice! Would I change it? If I could go back in time and think about it a bit more, would I? No of course I wouldn’t!

Since becoming a mummy, and one to not the easiest chaps. I often have been asked by people how do I do it? How do I cope with the meltdowns, the battles, the anxiety. I have never really given it that much thought. I don’t ever feel like I do anything special. I do no more than any other mother does or would do for their children. But since started to write and share my blog I have had a lot of people ask. Well, this has got me pondering, because come to think of it, how do I do it? How do I just not fall apart? Apart from T my long suffering husband and an immense amount of coffee during the day, finished off with a couple of glasses of wine in the evening, what is the glue that holds me together?

Well am I rapidly reaching the conclusion that maybe I might have been wrong regarding the lack of super powers I possess. Maybe every mother has special super powers?!

My super powers are without doubt, my family and friends!!

So, this one is for you. Not just my family, not just my old friends or my new friends, but everyone of you that has ever helped someone who was having a rough time. Be it, giving an understanding smile to a mother who’s child was melting down in the supermarket. Holding a door open for a father who was trying to run from a shop, child in arms, screaming and kicking because they had become overwhelmed by the other shoppers. Giving a warm smile to a mother in the playground who was having a rough day. Asking a friend over for a coffee when they needed someone to talk too. For a hug you have given. A text you have send. For the never ending support you provide, be it big or small. This is for you all, for each and every one of you, because you are amazing!!

I don’t want anyone putting me up on a pedestal and telling me how amazing I am. I am not amazing, I am just doing my job. Yes at times its shit. My heart seems to break at the moment on a daily basis. I can often reach the end of the day and wonder how I have survived and more importantly, how am I going to get up tomorrow and do it all again. I do it because I have to, its my job as a mother. I have two gorgeous boys who need a mother fighting for them. I have a husband who goes to work everyday to support us, who needs supporting and looking after. I can do it because of my super power; because I have amazing friends and an amazing family.

I get asked how people can help. I have friends who feel bad because they don’t think they do anything to help. Trust me, you all do more than you could believe. The fact that I know you are still there for me, even though I have not seen you for months, and I have not text you and said hello; you don’t ever hold this against me. The fact that when you do ask if I am ok, you don’t mind me talking at you for the next hour. You don’t mind that you don’t get a chance to say two words because for the first time in weeks, I am talking to an adult, so can’t seem to stop! The odd text saying hello, the wonderfully messages I have received since blogging. The knowing smiles I get at drop off and pick up at school, just saying; “I know, I get it, don’t worry” means so much.

My family are amazing and have helped so much in the last few years. I know my parents are always there, day or night if I ever need them; this in itself helps more than they realise. We have moved house to be closer to them, because of the support they provide. My sister in law, who is a teacher, who is always at the end of the phone to help with visual timetables, social stories, and C’s EHCP! My brothers who spend hours playing with the boys when they can, to help give me a break. C’s most amazing Godparents who bravely took on the role, who are not only fantastic with C but also provide never ending support to me.

In the last few weeks I have had a few pretty dark days. I have cried far too much and at times have well and truly felt like going to hide in a hole somewhere, far away. But then my super powers have stepped in. They have helped me pull myself together and get going again. Most won’t even think they have done anything, but how wrong are they! So, thank you for being my secret super power, it’s the best super power a mummy could ever ask for!!

You can read the original post on Lottie’s blog here.

She also has a Facebook page called Family Life and Autism . Please do like and share it with others in the autism community.

Natural Remedies for Fighting Fatigue

Lots of different medical conditions can cause fatigue. Multiple sclerosis, fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis, diabetes and cancer are just a few example. But so can being a caregiver – which I am fully aware of as I am the parent of a boy with autism.

At PatientTalk.Org we are passionate about sharing information about natural, alternative and complementary treatments for different conditions and symptoms so i was delighted to find this infographic on “Natural Remedies for Fighting Fatigue”.

Please do feel free to like and share with your friends and family .

Thanks very much in advance!

Natural Remedies for Fighting Fatigue

From Visually.

Share this brilliant Autism Awareness Poem written by a young Autistic

Autism Acceptance
Autism Acceptance
A couple of days ago one of the readers of our Facebook page AutismTalk share this brilliant poem written by her two ones one of whom is an autistic. In the poem he tells us what it is really like to be a person with ASD at school.

Holly very graciously have us permission to share it with you here. She says “A poem written by my two sons !Daniel wanted to express some feelings and help people understand him and release how he feels and had his older brother help with words and spelling.”







If you have a poem about autism you would like to share on this blog when not paste it into the comments box below or if you would like is to showcase it as a blog please sent it to

Thanks very much in advance.

Men and women attempt to reverse aging process – read our FAQ about dermal fillers.

Dr Zack Ally
Dr Zack Ally

New survey reveals Britons seek anti-aging treatments to stay competitive in work, reward themselves and maintain youthfulness.

Nearly a third of UK adults have had aesthetic treatment for a change in job or career, according to new research released today underlining that youthfulness still equates to success in work for many people.

Survey results also highlighted that 1 in 5 women in the UK have dermal fillers to turn the clock back and retain their beauty while surprisingly, almost 40% of respondents, aged 25-44, said they would have aesthetic treatment if their partner wanted them to.

Until now, 90% of all aesthetic procedures have been carried out on women; however Intraline’s research found that UK men are threatening to buck the trend with 25% of survey respondents having dermal fillers to reward themselves.

Weddings were identified as a key milestone with 1 in 25 women undergoing treatment to look their best on their big day and 10% having a procedure for a significant birthday.

To find out more about dermal fillers we interview Dr Zack Ally a pioneering physician who is CEO and Founder of Derma Medical, a state of the art aesthetic training provider for doctors.

PatientTalk.Org – Firstly, what is a dermal filler and how do they work?

Dr Zack Ally – So, dermal fillers are injections of hyaluronic acids which is something that our body naturally produces and as we age we tend to lose hyaluronic acids and as a result of that our faces start to loose volume and descend. By injecting volume back into the skin you can essentially take back years and lift up the face. You can do quite a lot with dermal fillers, you can anchor, you can mould, you can shape, you can lift and you can create a very natural look appearance with dermal fillers.

PatientTalk.Org – And are there any dangers involved with dermal fillers?

So with any procedure there are always complications, but there are also ways of minimising that as well. The dangers of injecting are going outside the territories of injections, although areas which we call landmarks or safe zones. You can obviously inject in to areas nearby, there are certain structures within the face that we tend to avoid, vessels and injection depth. So you can actually avoid that by sticking to landmarks, so generally speaking the procedure can be quite safe if it’s done properly and as a training company our aim really is to teach people the landmarks of how to inject safely, how much to be using, where to be using the product and exactly what you’re using. By ticking all those boxes you tend to be quite safe in distribution and the look you intend to achieve with it.

PatientTalk.Org – If somebody wanted to get dermal fillers, who provides them and how is the profession regulated?

Dr Zack Ally – The industry is not the best regulated at the moment. In terms of getting dermal fillers
Intraline manufacture dermal fillers, they manufacture very natural looking dermal fillers as well,

Leslie Ash
Leslie Ash
which have a density enough to create good volume, with retaining a natural look. You can get them directly from the company itself Intraline and directly through speaking to the manufacturers such as ourselves and the product, the company providers as well. Most of the delegates that train in our companies tend to have access directly to these dermal fillers through our training days and in terms of our regulation, people that are trained in dermal fillers receive certification, making sure they can administer them safely. Once they have received their certification and got insured in dermal fillers, they are able to practice independently afterwards.

PatientTalk.Org – Are there any medical benefits as opposed to just cosmetic benefits?

Dr Zack Ally – With dermal fillers not so much medical, it’s more cosmetic but with some of the other aesthetic treatments that are offered in the industry somethings are actually medical. With neurotoxins elegant Botox or other forms of Botox that can be used for excessive sweating, they can be used for people who have got bruxism, which is a painful jaw when they bit or grind their teeth. They can also be used for medical reasons in effect, back in the day when they were used more often for this purpose, people that have high tone in their muscles or people that have problems with their bladder, or people that have squints and all these indications for Botox really were for the eye itself and all the muscular structures in the area which cause excessive movement, so Botox will work by relaxing that movement and minimising the tension in the muscle.

PatientTalk.Org –Why are they becoming more common for cosmetic reasons? Why are men using them?

Dr Zack Ally – So, in this day and age for many people it’s important for people to look good and feel good and people that do look good and feel good often tend to perform better in their day to day lives. The industry as you quite rightly say, you are seeing lot more men take the treatments and because it’s available it’s minimally invasive, it’s quite simple to do in terms of administering the procedure and in terms of safety you know it’s safe to inject these cosmetic injectables. Lots of the time these products are actually reversible they are not permanent and even when they do occur you can minimise a top up. The benefit of dermal fillers and Botox above surgical treatments are the fact that, again it’s cheaper to do and also you can achieve the same results with less interventional operative time. With men in particular you are seeing a significant increase in demand because, I think men care more now days about their appearance and are not afraid to take that to the next step, something that seemed to be more of a feminine treatment is now being taken a lot more by men. In fact 25 percent of our respondents have shown that there is a 25% increase in men’s use for Botox and fillers.

PatientTalk.Org – What is Hyaluronic acid and how does it work and what is the value to the user?

Dr Zack Ally – So as I mentioned earlier Hyaluronic acid is the component of dermal fillers, it’s something that our body naturally produces and we can actually replenish that but introducing a dermal filler into the skin which is the deeper component of the skin to add that volume back.

PatientTalk.Org – And last and final question could you just tell us the research and methodically and how was the sample constructed?

Dr Zack Ally – The sample was part of the UK media launch that Intraline conducted into consumer market research lead by a company called opinion matters to assess the attitude people have towards cosmetic treatments within the UK . We had 2000 people above the age of 25 ask questions about the industry and what they would like to do and how they see it and generally speaking overall results showed that nearly a third of UK population would choose to have those treatments for a change in their career or their job which underlays really the youthfulness still acquaints to success in the workplace for many people. Of that population 1 in 5 women who shown in the UK to request dermal fillers to turn back the clock and maintain a youthful look and retain their beauty and as we said earlier lots of men see a increase in demand for the products as well because of its availability and what’s being offered these days we are seeing a lot more people request Botox and Dermal fillers and companies such as ours help train practitioners to perform these procedures safely and effectively and I think it’s about getting the awareness out there and that is what is being seen and received on their end.

Chocolate courgette bread recipe – perfect for anyone with diabetes or on the Paleo diet

Chocolate courgette bread
Chocolate courgette bread
Chocolate and green veg might not sound like the perfect pairing but this recipe is unexpectedly delicious; the addition of grated courgette gives this loaf a lovely moist texture and it is tasty! Serve it hot out of the oven, and it will become your staple autumn warmer treat.

Nutritionist and chef Christine Bailey shows us just how quick and easy this bake can be. It’s dairy and gluten free and thanks to the zero calorie stevia sweetener, it won’t affect your blood glucose levels- perfect if you’re catering for any diabetics or if you are on a paleo diet. Not only is it packed with flavour, it’s also filled with goodness to give you a natural protein energy boost. And may help promote weight loss.

Your ingredients for this recipe are:

1 medium courgette finely grated (150g)
3 eggs
150g cashew nut butter
30g Truvia calorie free sweetener
25g cocoa powder
30g coconut flour
1tbsp vanilla extract
1tsp cinnamon
1tsp baking powder
½ teaspoon bicarbonate of soda
Pinch of salt
60g sugar free chocolate chips (dairy free if needed)

World Mental Health Day 2015 – Dignity in mental health. Check out the Mental Health Atlas country profiles

World Mental Health Day - Dignity
World Mental Health Day – Dignity
Today as you may know is World Mental Health Day 2015 this year’s theme is “Dignity in mental health” You might be interested in our World Mental Health Day infographic which can be found here.

Thousands of people with mental health conditions around the world are deprived of their human rights. As well as being discriminated against, stigmatized and marginalized, they are also subject to emotional and physical abuse in both mental health facilities and the community. Poor quality care due to a lack of qualified health professionals and dilapidated facilities leads to further violations.

This year, the World Health Organisation will be raising awareness of what can be, and is being, done to ensure that people with mental health conditions can continue to live with dignity, through human rights-oriented policy and law, training of health professionals, respect for informed consent to treatment, inclusion in decision-making processes, and public information campaigns.

To find out about the state of mental health provision in your country have a look at Mental Health Atlas-2014 country profiles.

Do you feel (have you felt) stigma because of a medical condition?

Sunny Beach - Bulgaria
Sunny Beach – Bulgaria
When our son was diagnosed with autism (just over six years ago) it took me months to tell many of my closest friends. Why? Because I was at the time ashamed of the fact our beautiful (and yes at times difficult) son had such a disability.

I don’t feel that now but if I am truthful I do occasionally feel a pang of regret about things that i thought I would do with him but now never will. Though in fact you don’t need a child with a disability to feel that.

So I was wondering am I alone?

Have others felt shame and stigma because of a medical condition?

If you have it would be great if you would share a bit more about your story in the comments section below.

Also we have set up a poll on the subject below. It would be great if you could take part.

Many thanks.

PS There is a reason for the picture of Bulgaria. But that is for my wife and I!

World Mental Health Day 2015 – Mental Health Across the Lifespan #WMHD15 #IAmStigmaFree

As you may know Saturday October 10th is World Mental Health Day 2015.

We would like to share this fantastic infographic from the UK’s Mental Health Foundation which is a great way to help promote understanding and awareness of mental health throughout a person’s life.

It would be great if you could share on social media using the hashtags #WMHD15 and #IAmStigmaFree.

Thanks very much in advance.

World Mental Health Day 2015 - mental health across the lifespan
World Mental Health Day 2015 – mental health across the lifespan

World Arthritis Day is on October 12th. Find out how you can help! #WADHigh5

World Arthritis Day
World Arthritis Day

What is World Arthritis Day?

World Arthritis Day is a global initiative bringing people together to raise awareness of issues affecting people with RMDs. WAD is recognised every year on 12 OCTOBER and is supported by a year-round global campaign.

RMDs encompass over 200 different diseases and the symptoms can have a serious impact on daily life.2 RMDs can affect people of all ages including children and babies and if not treated appropriately, simple daily activities such as walking, climbing stairs, cooking, personal hygiene and working are affected – reducing quality of life and impacting on physical abilities.2

High 5 to EVERYONE affected by rheumatic & musculoskeletal diseases. Who will you #WADHigh5 this World Arthritis Day? #WADHigh5

In Europe alone, rheumatic and musculoskeletal diseases (RMDs) affect over 120 MILLION PEOPLE.1 Almost EVERY FAMILY IS AFFECTED and RMDs impact on more individuals than any other disease group.1

It’s time to show support for people with RMDs. Help us to raise awareness of RMDs and bring the RMD community – including people with RMDs, their families and friends, healthcare professionals, carers, researchers, policy-makers and patient organisations – and the wider public together through a common action that is universally recognised and grabs attention – THE HIGH 5.

‘HIGH 5 FOR WORLD ARTHRITIS DAY’ asks people to share virtual High 5s to raise awareness of RMDs and to encourage people to take visible action over RMDs. Our aim is to take social media by storm!

But how? In addition to joining the Thunderclap, there are other ways you can get involved:

  •    Write a name on your hand and take a photo, share the virtual High 5 on social media using the hashtag #WADHigh5
  •    Visit the World Arthritis Day website  to find a World Arthritis Day event near you



  1.        Questions and answers on rheumatic diseases fact sheet. EULAR. Available at:
  2.        10 things you should know about rheumatic diseases fact sheet. EULAR. Available at:
  3.        Physical activities and exercises for people with RMDs fact sheet. World Arthritis Day. Available at:

Autism – Some tips on communicating with people on the autism spectrum

In a perfect world I would not have to post this but…………

And no I don’t think this is perfect but it is a good way of starting to inform people outside the ASD community. In particular family and friends.

If you have any other tips please do share in the comments section below.

Tips on Communicating with Autistic Individuals

From Visually.